"For many couples, sex is really the farthest thing from their minds," she says, explaining that stress related to lockdown life has caused many to have very little energy for sex. She also says familiarity and comfort can lead to a lack of desire among couples, noting that working from home and staying in more can lead to people's brains "going on autopilot."
So how can couples awaken their desires and sexual feelings for their partner? Dr. O’Reilly suggests surprising your partner with something new, for instance:
- Ditch your comfy lounge clothes and dress up in something your partner finds appealing
- Plan a date night
- Experiment with "dirty talk"
- Try out a sex toy
She tells The Doctors that being compatible with someone takes work, an investment of time, effort, and creativity.
And if a couple is leary of trying something new in the bedroom or is feeling awkward about asking their partner to try something out of their regular comfort zone, Dr. O’Reilly suggests, "Start with the positive, make an offer and then make a request... you want to not just lead with the features, but also the benefits."
For more sex and relationship tips, check out Dr. O’Reilly’s book, “The Ultimate Guide to Seduction and Foreplay.”