"I wake up every morning horny," she proclaims. "I want to know if this is something normal for someone my age to have such strong sexual desires." She adds, "Sometimes these urges get so strong it feels like it's going to blow the top of my head off," noting that she has had trouble finding the right partner in recent years, but reveals she knows how to take care of her needs all by herself.
Lonikaye is not alone, according to a Duke University study, 20 percent of people over 65 say that their sex life and drive is the best it has ever been.
OB/GYN Dr. Tristan Emily Bickman tells Lonikaye that while she might feel like getting her sexual needs met is problematic at times, she assures her having a strong sexual desire is very normal and that women her age can be sexually satisfied without having intercourse. She explains that while some women might see a drop in sexual desire after menopause, other women experience the opposite and find they have a significant boost in sexual desires, which could be related to hormone levels.
Lonikaye's doctor has told her that she has a "young vagina" for her age, and the 85-year-old thinks this could be related to what she does to keep herself healthy, which includes daily exercise. She says it helps with her alleviate some of her sexual tension. To help keep her active and healthy, she enjoys swimming, walking, and she also lifts weights.
In order to help Lonikaye possibly meet someone, we have arranged for her to meet with Matchmakers in the City for a private consultation and a date coaching session.