According to reports, divorce consultations are up by 50 percent and divorce filings have increased by 33 percent over the past year, and the experts predict more divorces are coming now that the world is opening up.
Attorney Ann-Margaret Carrozza tells us she has seen an uptick in people contacting her about information and advice on divorce and she believes it is due to being cooped up with your partner and not having the ability to create more space in our relationships, in addition to financial strains and uncertainty about the future.
Clinical psychiatrist Dr. Domenick Sportelli explains the pandemic created the perfect recipe for relationships to fall apart and he has pinpointed 4 issues among couples that can lead to a split or a divorce.
- An increase in criticism
- The creation of contempt
- Defenses on high
- Increased avoidance
Ann-Margaret notes the actual number of finalized divorces is down, but she says this is due to courts being closed and says there is a backlog of all cases, including divorces. She also notes couples with financial hardships will often not finalize their divorce, with the average cost of an uncontested divorce is around $15,000.
The Doctors and Ann-Margaret say with the world reopening and life returning to normal, it may offer struggling couples the opportunity to reset and come back together and save their relationship. To help couples reconnect, Dr. Sportelli suggests:
- Make space for you and your partner
- Schedule time together and plan events like a date night
- Reconnect intimately, romantically, and sexually
- Practice more empathy and share the burden of taking care of responsibilities
For couples unable to see their relationship, The Doctors break down when a divorce may be the right choice. Dr. Sportelli says if there is physical or emotional abuse, a partner who is unwilling to get help with an addiction, or infidelity, a split or a divorce might be the best option for each person.