She explains stress kicks in our body's fight or flight response and elevates cortisol in the body. She also warns for many people stress will squash someone's sex drive altogether. But, this can differ from person to person, and notes for some, higher stress levels will cause someone's sex drive to intensify and she says it is important for couples to know how their partner responds to stress sexually.
If the partners are not similar in how they respond to stress, this can lead to dueling libidos and mismatched sexual desire and interest levels.
Dr. O’Reilly also reveals her universal tips for mind-blowing sex, which she says can apply to most people. She tells The Doctors having open communication and being self-reflective are the two most important ingredients in her recipe for better sex.
"A lot of what holds us back, when it comes to sex has to do with our own sexual values and some of the things we have not addressed. Most of us look to outside sources to explain our problems.... but ultimately it has to do with our own feelings and things we need to work through," she shares.
And if you are lacking the desire for sex, find out what our sex expert suggests you can do to better cultivate your desire, in the video below.