Knowing what to do when your child is the bully might seem confusing and overwhelming and The Doctors welcome a mom who shares how she and her family dealt with being told their child was bullying other kids at school.
Mom Crystal Paine was shocked when she was told by her child's principal that their child had said something so traumatic to another child that the bullied kid developed panic attacks and did not want to return to school. When she and her husband discussed what took place with their child, she says they were very angry and upset and their child even said things like, "I wish I was never born."
They turned to therapy, which took time to work, but after a year of their child seeing a therapist, she says there has been "a major major change." She says during this period, she and her husband decided they needed to learn a completely new way to parent. She says now instead of trying to fix or correct her child, she is focusing on connecting.
The “Love-Centered Parenting” author joins The Doctors to share her tips for parents with children who bully. She suggests:
Lean in and love -- The author stresses the importance of connecting with kids on their level and avoid shutting down and shaming them.
Listen well -- She says parents need to be mindful of a child's words and actions because these will speak more about what is going on than their words.
Lead with humility -- This includes honesty, admitting mistakes, and apologizing to your child when needed.
Let go -- Crystal says this can be difficult to do as our instincts tell us to overprotect and micro-manage, but she feels if a parent can let go, their child will better succeed and grow more.
Get more tips from Crystal's book "Love-Centered Parenting: The No-Fail Guide to Launching Your Kids."