Is a 'Honey Trap' a Good Way to Discover a Cheater?

Playing Should You Ever 'Honey Trap' a Person You Suspect of Cheating?

Could a honey trap help you find out if your partner is cheating? And is hiring professional to determine if there is infidelity ever a good idea?

The Doctors explain the honey trap acts as bait, attempting to lure in the possible cheater and find out how far they are willing to step out on the relationship. The hired honey trap then reports back if something is amiss. Only 34 percent of our audience said they would consider hiring a professional honey trap.

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Professional honey trapper & private investigator at Kay & Associates Elisabeth South explains that she only sets up the situation to find out if someone will take the bait, and says any interaction would be fair and not forced. She also says nothing physical ever happens, and often times she says women who hire her want to know what their men are saying to her, in order to find out their tactics or methods of flirting. She says she will go so far as to have dinner with unsuspecting men in order to find out if they are willing to cheat.

But is this a healthy way to determine if your relationship is in a good place? Relationship expert Kiaundra Jackson joins the conversation.

"If you have to go to the lengths of actually hiring a private investigator or a honey trapper that's an indicator that things are already horrible in your relationship," Kiaundra says, explaining she feels like this method will create mistrust within the relationship.

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If you do suspect there might be infidelity, Kiaundra first suggests having a pointed conversation with your partner.

  • Tell them you feel "things have been off"
  • Wait to see how they respond
  • Based on their response, she feels a unique dialogue will take place

As for continuing a relationship after cheating, Kiaundra feels it is possible with the right type of work. She suggests couples try therapy or have both partners read a book about trust, or possibly take a relationship course or go on a retreat.

"The goal is to secure your partner's insecurity because oftentimes you have created these [insecurities] in your partner, and it is your job and your responsibility to make sure you're showing effort... to improve and build on the trust," she tells The Doctors.


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