How Parents Should Handle Discovering Porn in the Home

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While discussing the prevalence of porn and whether someone can develop an addiction to watching porn, The Doctors discuss how parents can best address finding porn in the home with clinical sexologist Dr. Robert Weiss and recovering porn addict Alex Rhodes.

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Clinical psychologist Dr. Judy Ho shares in her practice she has patients who say they began viewing porn as young 9 years old and The Doctors note for many kids, they are exposed to porn before their first kiss or first date. Dr. Judy advocates for "early conversations" with kids about porn and she stresses that parents should not shame children for being curious about adult content.

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Alex, who says he began watching porn at 11, feels a conversation about porn would have helped him when he was young and be believes parents need to warn their kids about it and prevent their access to the content. He also advocates for raising awareness about porn for adults, including a discussion about how it is utilized and how often.

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If a parent discovers a child has been viewing porn, Dr. Weiss suggests, at first, a parent should "do nothing." "Take some time to tolerate your feelings. Go talk to your pastor, a therapist, your friends, so when you talk to your kids about it, however you want to talk about it, you're not freaked out," he says, explaining if the child is shamed for the porn that it can cause them to hide parts of themselves. He adds, "Don't shame your kids," explaining a conversation about this topic is important, as he feels it is common for most kids with access to a smartphone or computer to inevitably search for this content.

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The Doctors stress if you feel you have a porn addiction to seek out help from a trained professional who specializes in this area. Resources can be found at Porn Anonymous (PA), Pornography Addicts Anonymous (PAA), and Sex and Porn Addicts Anonymous (SPAA).