Shan is pro-technology when it comes to dating, but warns, "If a relationship didn't work, then it means there were fundamental flaws of compatibility." She believes the only time someone should purse an ex is when you can identify the issue was with yourself and you have worked on the issue, preferably with a professional like a therapist or psychologist. She does not think an online dating coach can achieve this.
The relationship expert stresses that the only time to get back together with an ex is when you have done the work and made the changes that were lacking the first time around.
She adds, "If you are going back, hoping the other person is going to change, that is pointless business." Also, The Doctors note that the fear of being alone or the fear of the unknown should not be a reason to start up a past failed relationship.
Clinical psychologist Dr. Judy Ho and Shan both suggest a separation period and distance from your ex after a split in order to develop independence and self-confidence, especially you are considering trying to be friends with the ex.