Clinical psychologist Dr. Judy Ho shares on her podcast SuperCharged Life that she believes it’s our moral, ethical, and social responsibility to try and leave this world a little better than it was when we came into it. She shares her hope that you can be motivated to be a daily superhero and it doesn't matter your age, your ethnic background or your religious beliefs, your gender or income, you can do a lot more than you think to fight injustice - and it begins with one person, one conversation, and one act.
She is joined by award-winning writer and filmmaker Rei Marcus Green and VP of Paulist Productions Father Tom Gibbons to discuss the two ongoing pandemics: COVID-19 and racism.
Rei is African American and Puerto Rican, Father Tom has Irish roots, and Dr. Judy was born in Taiwan before emigrating to the U.S. at the age of 8. They come to the table with their varied experiences but align on the importance of education and using their platforms for good and helping people to have constructive conversations that can inspire real change.
They discuss the murder of George Floyd by Minneapolis police and why the video of his death became a tipping point in this moment for protest and change, and what we can do to make this moment count and what the future holds.
Dr. Judy shares 5 tips that you can do to help tackle this big issue.
Tip 1: Educate Yourself
Dr. Judy suggests watching videos about systemic racism, which you can do online on sites like Race Forward. She also suggests taking an implicit association test and getting your intersectionality score. She encourages everyone to arm yourself with as much information as possible. Here are some more resources.
Tip 2: Listen
Dr. Judy and her guests encourage everyone to focus on listening and to hear the point of view of someone different than you, one you might not agree with, and to take a deep breath and sit in the discomfort of it. She suggests accepting that someone else's point of view and experience can be different than your own. Father Tom Gibbons suggests listening to voices that have done the work of listening to people on all sides of the coin. Rei Marcus Green shares that you can help by listening, and knowing when it's your turn to speak and when it isn't.
Tip 3: Self-Reflect
"True self-reflection is not a walk in the park," shares Dr. Judy Ho, adding, "It's difficult to be confronted with the not-so-pretty parts of yourself." So why do it? Dr. Judy shares that is when true change takes place. When you self-reflect and bring to light the places where you need to change, that's when you evolve. It's okay to acknowledge your flaws, but she warns not to be ashamed, because, "Shame is not a useful emotion."
Tip 4: You Can Make Change!
"Even when you speak up at the micro level, changing racist and discriminatory attitudes starts with one person," says Dr. Judy. So, when a colleague or uncle makes that racist joke, don't let them get away with it! Dr. Judy shares it's important to let them know what they said hurts you. She encourages using "I feel" statements, for instance, "I feel uncomfortable that you made that joke today." Rei Marcus Green shares that he tells friends to speak up when it's not convenient to do so, and also that it's never too late to change.
Tip 5: Make a Conscious Effort
Change happens from conscious choices and Dr. Judy encourages everyone to make conscious choices every single day of your life. How? Dr. Judy encourages people to get to know people different from you and to do something out of your comfort zone. As soon as you do you are opening the door to different perspectives, which will help you grow and evolve. She also warns not to settle back into a normal after these protests die down - keep doing the work.
Listen to the entire episode of Supercharged Life with Dr. Judy Ho and her guests writer and filmmaker Reinaldo Marcus Green and Catholic priest Father Tom Gibbons which goes live on June 9th. Plus, check out Rei's movie Monsters and Men and Father Tom's film The Dating Project.