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Teen therapist Kelly Richardson joins The Doctors to share some lingo your kids may be using. Here are some common terms parents need to know!
NIFOC: Naked in front of the computer.
420: Referring to marijuana.
Hooking-up: This could mean just making out, but in general, Kelly says it means having sex.
9: Parents are in the room/are next to me.
99: Parents are gone. The coast is clear to have conversations your teen doesn’t want you to see or hear.
Dermatologist Dr. Sonia Batra says as a parent to two children who are almost teens this is so scary for her. She asks Kelly, how do parents keep ahead of this and what can they do?
Kelly advises following your children on any social media sites that they are on. She says to "investigate" which she says is different than “snooping.” Kelly says the best time to broach these topics with teens is in the car because they’re essentially trapped!
Kelly says to call it a “mom moment” and expect the eye rolls. Ask your child to put their phone away, since they will most likely be on it, and have a short and concise conversation with them about the concerns you have. Kelly says to use it as more of a teaching versus a preaching moment. If you preach or talk for too long, your teen will likely tune you out.
Kelly also says teens need to know their cell phone is not something they are entitled to. You own it and they are just renting it from you. They need to be made aware of what “stranger danger” entails today which given social media, could come from anywhere, not just a person with a shady white van.
ER physician Dr. Travis Stork asks what to do if you find that your teen is sexting? Kelly says the most important thing is to not shame them. Be proactive instead of reactive. Instead of reacting as though they did something wrong, talk about how this is going to change so it doesn’t happen again. Parents also need to explore if there are any legal things that need to be done since there could be legal ramifications for naked pictures being sent.
Kelly goes back to the phone and says if it’s needed, tell your teen their phone needs to be charged out of their bedroom or, they could lose privileges altogether if the behavior doesn’t stop. For more advice from Kelly visit her website Thera-Mom.