Coronavirus: How to Have Quarantine Compassion for Your Partner

Quarantine couple

The reality is, you have likely never been trapped in the same place with the people you live with before. Sharing a space with your family can both be comforting and irritating because you are getting used to working and playing all in one place.

It's more important now than ever to give each other quarantine compassion, as anxieties run high and the uncertainty looms. 

Sharing your space so intimately can be a challenge, but clinical psychologist Dr. Judy Ho recommends trying to see your home as a true playground and get more inventive about what that looks like.

She shares that for her husband's birthday, instead of taking their planned trip to Las Vegas, she planned a scavenger hunt around their home so he could find his presents. She said they have been playing a lot of old board games, and they keep a limit on screen time, which she recommends. Dr. Judy shares they never have their devices at dinner and they never have them in their living room. Dr. Judy recommends having a box at the entryways of the areas that are phone-free zones. She shares it helps them be more creative about how they will spend their time. And it makes your time together more meaningful.

Dr. Judy shares that fights are likely to happen. She recommends you, "Put yourself in someone else's shoes as much as possible, take a moment before you react, take a deep breath and try and understand where they may be coming from." She shares a good reminder that everyone is dealing with this stress differently.

Her advice is to start with a question, instead of an accusation. So, if you are frustrated that your partner has just played 5 hours of video games, instead of helping around the house she suggests you say: "I see you are playing a lot of your game. Why are you doing that, and how can I help you?" 

All around, it's time to give one another more compassion at home than normal. 

For more from Dr. Judy, check out her new podcast "Supercharged Life".