Approximately 45 percent of Americans are over 18 years old and unmarried, meaning people are going to be engaging in various types of sexual contact regardless of the pandemic.
Shan says people are concerned and taking extra precautions about having sex right now. "Intimacy is still a very important part of our lives, So if you can find a way to safely get your dose of human connection and human contact that would be incredible," she says.
The sexologist notes the same questions you would ask someone if you were going to dinner with them without a mask or if you were going inside their home are the same questions you should be asking before having sex, like:
- Have they gone out socially during the pandemic?
- What is their daily routine like and what are the potential risks that they might encounter?
- Have they been somewhere like a bar or a crowded event recently?
- Do they live with someone who is high-risk?
- Have they experienced any virus symptoms or been exposed to someone who has tested positive in the last two weeks?
She urges people to have these possibly awkward conversations because it is bound to make the sex more enjoyable. "The conversation around safe sex is to ensure that sex is better, and who doesn't want better sex?" Shan says. She says an easy way to broach the subject is to make sure you know your own status and to share that information with a potential partner. The sexologist feels if you lead by example it will make the conversation easier and will put the other person at ease.
Hear more from Shan about sex during the pandemic and learn about new COVID-related relationship dealbreakers, in the video below!