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According to a recent online survey the desired average number of minutes that women across the globe say they want sex to last is... 25 minutes and 51 seconds. Men said their ideal time was 25 minutes and 43 seconds.
"Pretty much the same," clinical psychologist Dr. Judy Ho shares about how close the desired number is for both sexes. "That's a commitment," shares ER physician Dr. Travis Stork about the actual length.
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What is the average number of minutes that people report actually having sex? Dr. Ho shares that somewhere between 4-7 minutes is what's actually happening between the sheets. "This number I think makes sense, because in the Journal of Sexual Medicine they did a poll and women do experience more percentages of orgasms when the sex is elongated." She goes on to share that the study reported if the sex lasts less than ten minutes only 50 percent of women will report experiencing orgasm. But at 20 minutes, 75 percent of women report experiencing orgasm.
Trying to make sense of several studies, Dr. Travis shares that a different study reports adequate sex to be between 3-7 minutes and desirable sex was between 7-13 minutes. But the difference between desirable in this study (7-13 minutes) and ideal in first study (25-26 minutes) is a big difference! Dr. Ho shares that at least 30-40 percent of men will say that they finish in less than 5 minutes. "If anything... I've become more confused by all the studies we've done over the years," shares Travis about reported and desired length for sex.
While these numbers are entertaining to discuss, The Doctors warn that it's important not too get too in your head when it comes to sex.
Dr. Ho shares these important sex tips:
- Don't worry
- Don't fixate on frequency
- Don't compare your sex life to others
The National Survey of Sexual Health and Behavior reports that men believe that their partners achieve orgasm 85 percent of the time with them, but only 64 percent of women said that they were achieving orgasm. In her final important sex tip, Dr. Ho shares that women should not be faking an orgasm, adding "you need to actually express when you're not achieving orgasm."