Are you sabotaging your relationships? The Doctors are joined by "The Art of Likeability" podcast host Arel Moodie to explain why being liked is so important and share ways to improve your social relationships.
"The quality of your life comes down to the quality of your relationships in your life. If you're happy, you have good relationships. If you're sad, odds are your relationships are off. And I'm talking about the relationships with yourself [and] the relationships with others. When you like yourself, you attract like-minded people and then you can start and nurture meaningful relationships. Everything comes from that," Arel tells The Doctors.
Arel shares his tips on how to be more likable and be surrounded by people we like, which include:
Not shining the spotlight on the wrong person: Arel says the feeling people have when they are in your presence is linked to the character traits that they assign to you. "If I make you feel awesome when you're around me, you think I'm awesome. If I make you feel dumb when you're around me, you think I'm dumb," he says.
Don't be the shine hijacker: He says that instead of just waiting for your turn to speak when listening to someone and then jumping in with your own story, it's better to listen and engage with them and allow them to have the spotlight.
Avoid being an emotional freight train: Arel says instead of just focusing on one emotion we might excel at, for instance being the happy person, and going full force (like a freight train) that is it better to be more like a rollercoaster, with ups and downs. when it comes to emotions. He says people who exhibit a more varied set of emotions are more liked.
Check out more from Arel on his "The Art of Likeability" podcast, here.