A Florida mother of three was arrested after posting a picture of her 10-year-old son on Facebook wearing a dress and makeup as punishment for wetting the bed. Neighbors say the boy was forced to run around the neighborhood in the dress. The boy was placed in his grandmother’s custody. The mother was later released because there was not enough evidence to charge her with a crime.
The news report raises questions about whether potty shaming punishment should be considered abuse.
“Shame on them,” says plastic surgeon Dr. Andrew Ordon.
ER physician Dr. Travis Stork says 15 percent of children older than 5 wet their beds and 5 percent of children older than 10 wet their beds occasionally.
“It can happen to kids,” he says. “It can be normal behavior.”
Dr. Travis warns that parents can cause lifetime damage by shaming their children.
Psychologist and child development expert Dr. Gail Gross encourages parents to be empathetic and reassure their children rather than reinforce shame, guilt and humiliation. She recommends telling children who wet the bed that they didn’t do anything wrong. She says it’s important to teach them how to be self-confident, so they don’t feel outcast and isolated.