The Big O
Does an orgasm a day keep the doctor away? The answer just may be yes! Learn the amazing benefits of safe and frequent sex.
OB-GYN Dr. Lisa Masterson explains that most women do not have orgasm through vaginal penetration, and that many times it is only achieved through clitoral stimulation. About 70 percent of women experience situational anorgasmia, which is when a woman is able to orgasm only during certain situations, such as through oral sex or masturbation.
“It’s important to communicate what works and take time with it,” Dr. Lisa says. “The woman is looking for the big O, and the only way she’s going to find it is by knowing where her buttons are. It’s very helpful and healthy to know what your buttons are.”
Studies show that four out of 10 women experience some sort of difficulty with sex and libido, and approximately 90 percent of women never address the issue with their doctors.
Kris Jenner, executive producer and creator of her hit E! reality show, Keeping Up With The Kardashians, explains how Zestra essential arousal oils helped enhance her sex life by stimulating erogenous zones of the body.
“[Zestra] gives you an arousal that’s an amazing experience [and] makes you feel fantastic,” Kris explains.
In two clinical studies, 200 women tried Zestra and 70 percent reported an increase in desire, arousal and satisfaction. “These are important phases in the human sexual response cycle,” Dr. Lisa adds.
Sexual Arousal Phases
There are four phases to a woman’s sexual arousal process: excitement, plateau, orgasm and resolution.
“A lot of women really don’t know their bodies, and they really rely on the man to give them their orgasms,” Dr. Lisa says. “That’s why we talk so much on the show about knowing your body, about self-pleasuring, because you have to know what does it for you in order to communicate that to a man.”
Generally speaking, the chance of a woman achieving orgasm during intercourse is increased by directly or indirectly touching or rubbing her clitoris.
- Involuntary muscle contractions: rhythmic quivering contractions in the uterus and vagina can occur as fast as one per second. A mild orgasm is comprised of approximately three to five contractions, and an intense orgasm can have as many as 10 to 15 contractions.
- Heavy, rapid breathing
- Blood pressure and heart rate increase
- Red blotches, or a "sex flush,” may appear over the entire body due to increased blood flow
- Breasts become fuller
- Vaginal walls redden and swell
- Dilation of pupils
The Ultimate Orgasm
Do you wish you could have a better orgasm? Help may be a click of a button away. A device called the Orgasmatron is placed inside the body and is purported to help give orgasms to those who may be challenged in that area. The procedure costs about $23,000, not including the surgery to put the device in.
Created by Dr. Stuart Meloy, the Orgasmatron is a spinal-cord stimulator inserted in the lower back and is about the size of a pacemaker. A hand-held remote controls the device, which stimulates electrodes placed on the spine.
The device was able to restore orgasmic function in 80 percent of women who were unable to climax for at least one year, according a recent study. These women had experienced at least one orgasm in their lifetime prior to the study.
“Some women really have difficulty [achieving orgasm] and it affects their sexuality,” Dr. Lisa says. “And sexuality is a very important part for a woman because it goes toward her confidence and how she feels about herself. And if she hasn’t had this experience, there’s an option.”
Before spending the money for an Orgasmatron, however, The Doctors advise trying other, less-expensive options first.
The Doctors and sexual health expert Dr. Jennifer Berman explain some helpful treatments to increase orgasms.
Over-the-counter testosterone creams, many of which are not yet FDA-approved, may increase sensitivity. “It is the main sex-steroid hormone that governs libido in both men and women,” Dr. Berman says. “You can get it from your doctor off-label, and he can prescribe it from a compounding pharmacy. They make it in a form of a gel, a cream [or] a drop. In my patients that have hormonal issues, libido problems and an orgasmic problems, oftentimes the testosterone or the topical things won’t be enough."
If the testosterone does not work, Dr. Berman uses an oxytocin nasal spray with her patients. Oxytocin is a hormone secreted in the brain that causes the uterus to contract during labor, and also causes feelings of attachment. Studies have shown that oxytocin is secreted in significant amounts during arousal and orgasm.
The Eros Therapy device is a small, handheld device that is placed over the clitoris, which restores blood flow to the genital area. The device increases clitoral and genital sensitivity, lubrication and helps women achieve orgasm.
“It is a good option, a good alternative, and if used on a regular basis, it will stimulate the nerves and blood vessels and enhance genital and vascular heath,” Dr. Berman says.
"Research suggests that the clitoral-vaginal distance, and I'm just reporting what I've read," ER physician Dr. Travis Stork says, "is that the optimal distance is 2.5 centimeters [apart] to have an orgasm."
If the distance between the hood of the clitoris and the vaginal opening is shorter than 2.5 centimeters, the movement of the penis will create more friction and increase the chance of orgasm.
"So many women think they can have orgasms just by sex alone," Dr. Lisa says. "Seventy-five percent of women, most women, do not have orgasm by [vaginal] sex alone.
"People ask, ‘Which one is better: a clitoral orgasm or a vaginal orgasm?'" Dr. Lisa states. "It really doesn't matter. An orgasm is an orgasm is an orgasm. We have to be more sex-positive, because women who are more positive about their bodies are going to have more orgasms.
"Only seven percent of women have orgasm from vaginal penetration, so guess how many people are faking it? "[Women] need to communicate more [and] be more sex-positive. And find out what buttons to push, guys!"