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Vasectomy Reality Check
Joy, a 30-year-old mother of three, wants her husband, Dalon, 31, to get a vasectomy. “I hate to say he kind of owes me this,” Joy says. “But that’s kind of the way I feel sometimes after giving natural birth to three children.”
Dalon, however, is not enthusiastic about undergoing the procedure. “I’d kind of like it to stay as it is,” he says. “If it’s not broke, don’t fix it."
E.R. physician Dr. Travis Stork and OB/GYN Dr. Lisa Masterson explain the risks and benefits of a vasectomy for men and tubal ligation for women. After hearing the facts, what will Dalon decide to do?
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Taming a Tantrum
The terrible twos can be terribly frustrating, but is it ever OK to silence tantrums with treats?
“Every mother and father has done that at some point,” doctor of psychology Wendy Walsh, Ph.D. says. “It usually happens when we’re publicly shamed and people are looking at us.
“The truth is that children need to learn to self-regulate,” Dr. Wendy continues. “Not babies, but children, [and] that starts around 2. The way they self-regulate is by not getting your attention. You don’t punish them, nor do you reward them. You ignore it. You know what you do? You fold laundry, you load the dishwasher, you walk in the other room. Once they see that they’re not getting the big show out of mom that they usually get, [they will relent].”
Pediatrician Dr. Jim Sears shares his dos and don’ts for taming tantrums.
Keep Your Cool
Dr. Sears says, “Know that tantrums are normal. In a 2-year-old, they’re almost expected, so don’t take it personally. You don’t want to respond to a tantrum with a tantrum. Don’t get in their face and start yelling.”
Empower Your Child with Choices
Dr. Sears says, “If your child is prone to tantrums, don’t say, ‘I need you to go upstairs to get dressed,’ because they’re going to say, ‘No, I don’t want to,’ and there’s going to be a big power struggle. Instead, say, ‘Go upstairs and choose between a red shirt and a green shirt,’ and they’ll go, ‘OK, well, I’m going to choose the one I want to choose,’ and you both win.”
Dr. Sears says, “Don’t start arguing with them about the reason for the tantrum, because they’re not hearing you. Their mind is on overload and all they’re thinking about is the tantrum.”
Ask Short Questions
Dr. Sears says, “Say a few quick words to them while they're taking a breath between screams. What I do with my kids is [ask], ‘Do we need to go outside?’ … I usually say it twice [between screams]. I give them two times. If they calm down, great. If they don’t, we go outside and we deal with it out there away from everybody, so it’s not as embarrassing.”
• Survive a temper tantrum
• Tips for controlling outbursts
• Choices to make during a tantrum
To Tell or Not to Tell
Would you tell your friend about his or her cheating spouse? The Doctors asked in a Facebook poll, and 85 percent of respondents said they would tell their friend. The Doctors reveal what they would do in this situation.
“STDs are being passed to innocent spouses, and if [the woman is] a breastfeeding mother, [STDs] could be passed through breast milk to her baby,” Dr. Wendy says. “This is infecting families, and I think it’s a medical question more than a moral question.”
“Maybe the best approach is to go to the person who is cheating and say, ‘Look, you need to buck up here, because your [spouse] has no clue that you’re cheating,” E.R. physician Dr. Travis Stork says. “I think that’s the first step to possible recovery in a relationship. … If you ever, ever hope to make amends, I’ll tell you right now that you’d rather find out from the person who cheated on you than from their friend.”
• What would you do if faced with this situation?
Would You Rather ...
Plastic surgeon Dr. Drew Ordon asks Dr. Wendy, Dr. Travis and Jillian if they would rather lose their looks and live to be 100, or look great, but die younger? Find out what they would choose.
• Which would you pick?
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