The Doctors' Motherhood Survival Club
Model, TV personality, Co-CEO of ModernMom.com and mother of four Brooke Burke joins The Doctors to create the The Doctors' Motherhood Survival Club, an online community on TheDoctorsTV.com where moms can connect, vent, ask questions, share tips and more!
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Brooke visits a Mommy and Me group to find out some of the biggest issues moms are struggling with.
"It was really fun," Brooke says. "And as chaotic as that looked, it was nice to get into an environment with moms where nobody was judging anybody. Because we all have that one mommy friend who tells you exactly how to do it and convinces you that her way is the only way. For me, what I always preach to everybody in my business is that you've got to find your own way and figure out what works for you. There are so many things that women want to know and they are too embarrassed to talk about it, or they're too afraid of what the other moms are going to say to them."
Brooke and The Doctors answer some of your most pressing motherhood questions:
• Are bowel movements normal during labor?
Having a bowel movement during labor is a natural and common occurrence.
"Your [OB/GYN] wants you to poop," OB/GYN Dr. Lisa Masterson says. "If you poop, we absolutely know that you are pushing right, because those muscles are in the exact same place. As the baby comes through the [birth] canal, that is pushing right on your rectum, so that's absolutely normal.
"Delivering a baby is not about looking pretty," Dr. Lisa adds. "There's blood, there's amniotic fluid, there's [urine]. That is OK. You are making a miracle, and this miracle comes with other bodily fluids, and that is absolutely alright."
• How do you spice up your sex life after having a baby?
After a long day, new mothers may feel tired and want to just relax and have alone time rather than have sex. However, it is important to keep an intimate relationship alive with your husband after pregnancy. The Doctors and Brooke offer tips for spicing up your sex life.
"First, it's finding time for yourself, so that you have more energy, and that will put you in the mood," plastic surgeon Dr. Drew Ordon says. "And then set specific time aside with your husband."
Dr. Lisa explains that you have to communicate and be honest with your partner. And she emphasizes, it is, "OK to separate yourself from your baby."
"There's this myth sometimes that [sex] is totally different," Brooke says. "I don't agree with that. It can actually get better, because suddenly you have this new bond and this new intimacy."
• Is it OK to let babies cry?
For busy mothers who may need 10 minutes of relaxation after a long day, Brooke suggests placing a crying baby into his or her crib.
Dr. Jim explains that research has shown that if you let a baby cry for less than 15 minutes, "Then you're probably not doing any physiological harm to the baby. There is some research [that says] that if it's prolonged, vigorous crying for longer than 15 minutes, maybe there is some decreased blood flow to the brain.
"But if it's just five to 10 minutes, and the baby is not terribly upset, and is in a safe place [like] a crib, then that's what you've got to do if that's the last resort," Dr. Jim adds.
After her 4-year-old daughter, Marissa, was born, Lisa developed melasma, an embarrassing skin problem also known as "the mask of pregnancy." Melasma causes the skin's pigmentation to darken on the cheeks, forehead, chin, upper lip and the bridge of the nose due to an increase in melanin, the primary determinant for skin color. The problem is often triggered by hormones during and after pregnancy, hormone replacement therapy, birth control pills and sun exposure.
Lisa is self-conscious about her melasma and has tried fading creams, but to no avail. Instead, she covers up the discoloration with layers of makeup. "When I do go out, I have that feeling that everybody looks at me," she says. "I don't take care of myself the way that I should, because I don't feel that I'm worthy of that."
Brooke Burke reveals that for nine years, she has been dealing with melasma as well. "This really hit home for me," Brooke says. "This is something that I haven't really addressed publicly.
"I have mastered the art of covering it," she adds.
In an act of solidarity, Brooke removes her makeup to expose her melasma and offers Lisa a chance to treat their problem together!
Bye-Bye Stretch Marks
Kara, 30, developed unsightly stretch marks on her breasts after breastfeeding.
"This is such a common problem," Dr. Ordon says. "Anywhere from 70 to 90 percent of all women have stretch marks."
Dr. Ordon explains what causes stretch marks.
Kara has tried using over-the-counter fading creams to treat her stretch marks, but none have worked. Cosmetic dermatologist Dr. Simon Ourian uses the CoolBeam laser treatment to help rid Kara of her embarrassing problem. "This is the first time that we can actually treat some of these silver and white stretch marks," Dr. Ourian says. "We have had great results."
Dr. Ourian explains that it usually takes two to five treatments to get rid of most stretch marks.
Menstruation Colors: What is Normal?
Elizabeth, from Baton Rouge, Louisiana has noticed that her menstruation blood is not always red like normal blood. Towards the end of her monthly cycle, she says it is often brown and asks The Doctors if this is normal.
Using the menstruation color wheel, Dr. Lisa explains what the colors of your blood mean.