Between the Sheets
Affecting one out of three men, premature ejaculation is one of the most common sexual problems among males. But is help on the way? A British company has developed a new drug that may treat premature ejaculation without reducing pleasure, as some creams tend to do. PSD502 is a unique formulation of two anesthetics, lidocaine and prilocaine, delivered via an aerosol spray to the penis, reducing sensitivity and delaying ejaculation. In a test of the spray, the average time to ejaculate was four minutes, compared to just one minute with a placebo. PSD502, however, does not treat the cause of premature ejaculation, just the effects.
The Sex Patch
The loss of libido and menopause go hand in hand for millions of women. A new product, however, may change that. A study in the New England Journal of Medicine says a testosterone patch may help post-menopausal women rediscover their sex drive. “As you get post-menopausal, what happens is not only your estrogen goes down, but also your testosterone,” Dr. Lisa says. “And the testosterone gives you that lovin’ feeling.
“[The patch] can really help a lot of women,” she continues, “because libido, or that sexual desire, really does a lot for a woman’s self image, and when that goes down, she can get depressed, she can feel bad about her body.”
The patch is not yet approved by the U.S. Food and Drug Administration, but Dr. Lisa says it has “big potential.”
Melissa, 23, is unable to have an orgasm without the help of a personal massager, and it frustrates her husband, Josh, 25. Dr. Lisa explains that most women do not have orgasm through vaginal penetration, and that many times it is only achieved through clitoral stimulation. Since about 10 percent of women never have orgasms, Dr. Lisa tells Melissa, “The good thing is, you have orgasms.”
About 70 percent of women experience situational anorgasmia, which is when a woman is able to orgasm only during certain situations, such as through oral sex or masturbation. “It’s important to communicate what works and take time with it,” Dr. Lisa says. “Try different positions. Maybe take a bath because warm water can help with stimulation. Use his hand instead of your hand, and when you get frustrated, just say, ‘This week, I’m not going to use the personal massager. I’m only going to let him go at it.’
“The woman is looking for the Big O, and the only way she’s going to find it is by knowing where her buttons are,” Dr. Lisa continues. “It’s very helpful and healthy to know what your buttons are.”
Carrying around condoms isn’t just for men anymore, as more and more women make sure to have them handy, as well. “As a modern woman, I like to be responsible for carrying condoms,” Heather, 35, says. “I want to know what’s a safe and discreet way to carry condoms myself.”
While they may seem like easy storage places, keeping condoms in a wallet or pocket can actually ruin the contraceptive. Rather, store them in a cool, dry place away from sunlight and heat. “More women should be responsible for their birth control, including condoms,” Dr. Lisa says. “It’s always been a stigma that the man should have the condom, and really it should be on the woman, too. I think more and more women should feel comfortable with that.”
Dr. Lisa shows Heather a new product called Just in Case, which is a discreet, stylish, personal prophylactic case. “Condoms are traditionally marketed for men, and they are really a women’s product,” says Rachael Sudul, co-founder of Just in Case. “They’re a great form of birth control and protection. We just need a very discreet, beautiful way to carry them, so that’s why we created this tool.”
A new trend is sweeping suburbia, and it’s for women only! Passion Parties are becoming more and more popular among suburban women, because they provide a setting to talk about sexuality, learn tips and techniques to help spice up their love lives, and try an array of products ranging from feathers to massagers to lotions.
“This is great for women, because [for] so many women, when they’re younger, everything’s about, ‘Don’t have sex,’” Dr. Lisa says. “And that’s appropriate, but as you get older, and you’re in a relationship, then it should be about feeling comfortable with your body. Sex is a very important thing for a woman’s self image. I think it’s very important that women open up, share their experiences, and I think that these are great venues to do that.”
“Now I know what the ladies are doing when we’re watching Monday Night Football,” Dr. Ordon jokes. “And between you and me, I like this better!”
Reclaiming the Bed
Carrie is a single mother who says in a home video that her 6-year-old son still sleeps in the bed with her, and she feels it is affecting her sex life. She asks The Doctors how she can get him to sleep in his own bed instead of hers.
“I know you’re a single mom, so he’s kind of the man of the house,” Dr. Jim says. “But since he’s been in your bed for so long, he thinks he belongs there, so it’s going to take you a little bit of time to get him out.
“He’s old enough so you can start saying, ‘Hey, it’s time to have your own room,’” Dr. Jim continues. “Buy a fun bed, a racecar bed. Have him help pick it out. But then you don’t just kick him out of your bed and lock the door. If he feels in control of this, then it’ll be more likely to be successful.”
With his own children, Dr. Jim explains that he used a star chart, where he would give a gold star to the children for every night they slept in their own bed. After reaching a certain number of stars, they would receive a prize.
Ask Our Doctors
Amy from Boston asks if Vitamin E can be used as an ointment to help with her vaginal dryness problem.
Dr. Lisa explains, “Vitamin E oil can improve vaginal lubrication. You can use it locally in the vagina simply by applying some of the oil directly, even if you’re not planning on having sex. But this shouldn’t be the only thing you’re trying; you should also use the lubricant of your choice during sex. Vaginal dryness can have several causes including hormones and age, but if it’s a persistent problem, definitely bring it up with your gynecologist.”