hello

it seems that ur very nice family, and i'll have the pleasure to regrd you as one of my overseas friend,

 

Leave the past behind you , life is full of roads as we travel by some we try to forget and some we wish we never pass,  this is the fact of life we may live some experiences that wouldn't please us but knowing that there is a reason for every thing " what doesn't kill you make you stronger ".

 

i wish you all the happiness in your life.

cheers;

Inam

inam-s@care2.com

Thank you so much.Yes i will be your friend. Their are many wonderful people here.

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Sheilah

I just wanted to give you some hope for getting back on your feet. My mother in law is around your age, has three sons, and has been in two abusive marraiges in the past. She had been single for 6 years and has now met the love of her life. And he treats like a queen. There is most definetly someone out there for u who will be the love of your life. And i will most definetly pray you find him. If you ever wanna talk, I'm here.

Thank you both so much.Bless you and yes I would love to be both your friend.

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Sheilah

Hi woman-

hope all is well for u today... do you mind me asking ----how  are  the kids doing from the separation? Did they have a real hard time with you and your spouse splitting?

Reason why I ask- is because my daughter is 11 and of course she loves him....but she knows he still treats me just horriable and is still very controlling, but because he promises to Buy her Everything---she tells me that if she lives with him Full time---he'll buy a Dog, new water bed ect...

what the hell do you do when u don't want to compete with that crap and how do you tell a girl at that age that he is doing this to buy her love---

at her age ---i find it hard sometimes because she knows - right from wrong but he is still  WAVING THIS DOLLAR BILL LIKE A Candy and of course i can't compete with it, nor do i want to.

Thanks Brenda

PS- should you need any help or advice---just ask...thats what caring people do....help others.

brenda

--and trust me---after the crap my ex put me through and still continues to TRY to put me through---i have had lots of experience.

I just struggle with my kid sometimes---because i don't want to hurt her feelings but I need to get my point across for her to understand certain things about her dad without sounding like i'm bashing him.

Oh Brenda I am so sorry you have to deal with this situation.Been there done that.I found out Kids are not stupid,Boy can they play us. It is terrible when men play the money trump card. And they know all the buttons to press.LOL And the worse is we let them have the power even we we break up.The best thing I found to do is try to maintain and be consistent even when it took every thing from giving him a choke hold/LOL Oh yeah that is what he did to me. And I learned to be honest and let my children know what I was feeling,at first I covered for him but I leared I didn't need to cover for him or make him out to be what he was not. I feel so bad please if I can help please let me know.And remember it is one day at a time and sometime one minute at a time. The bad thing is only time heals wounds and when we have big wounds time goes so slooowww.

Peace

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