For people who have trouble urinating in bathrooms (Shy Bladder Syndrome)

For over 40 years, I had great difficulty urinating in a bathroom if anyone was in close proximity.

This condition is now commonly referred to as Shy Bladder Syndrome and medically as Paruresis, and it is a type of social anxiety disorder that is treatable.

As a result of my fears, I missed out on all kinds of life-affirming activities and opportunities - any situation that involved sharing a bathroom with others or being away from home for an extended period of time.

I coped by not drinking any liquids, retaining my urine all day until I found a "safe" bathroom, and eventually by learning to self-catheterize. Travel was next to impossible.

I felt so embarrassed and, above all, so alone and isolated. The help I sought from physicians and mental health specialists was insufficient - no one seemed to know what to do or how to treat me. I often encountered ignorance, skepticism, or denial. 

Years later, through an Internet-based Discussion Board,  I discovered that Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy (CBT) was effective in treating people with this kind of social anxiety disorder. Combined with support group work and  the regular practice of desensitization exercises, I gradually recovered.

With a sincere desire and commitment to change, I think that, for those without a physiological component, almost anyone can overcome Shy Bladder Syndrome.

Carol Olmert

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