I am the mother to 3 BEAUTIFUL children and the wife to a WONDERFUL husband. We just got married Feb 2010 and our 1st year of marriage has been a NIGHTMARE! Not because of something between us, but with my ex husband. My oldest two children Braden 8 and Gracie 6 are fathered by my ex. My youngest daughter Tristyn 1yr is mine and my husbands. My ex has been a dead beat and nWeever paid support and jumped in and out of the kids lives as convienient to him. I never asked for the childsupport due to me being stubborn and thinking I didnt want money to come before my kids and their fathers relationship so I wanted to do all I could do to give them that chance to have that relationship. I fully believe I did EVERYTHING! We got along great. He didnt have to pay support and I didnt have to share my kids. Then he got a new girlfriend who is older and decided to try to make a man out of him. So he recently filed for joint custody. I of course said no. He had just came into their life this last year consistently and I had noticed the biggest change in my kids. Their attitudes were totally different and my son was depressed and talked about killing himself and how his dad hates him. I immediately stopped visitation and started my kids in counseling in June of this year right after I found out all this. I also filed for back child support and was offering to reduce the back childsupport and offering to negotiate a visitation schedule. I think he had it pretty good, but then he started trying to tell me when I could and couldnt see my kids and sorry but I took that REAL PERSONAL! As the MOTHER AND FATHER in their life the entire time how dare him think he is going to jump in and tell me when I can and cant see my kids. He was very upset at the request for past support. We were due to have court June 27 and on June 26 he and his girlfriend planted a pound of marijuana in my car while we were at the waterpark with the kids. He knew the kids would be getting back in that car and the girlfriend had called the sheriff to report we had it in our car. It ended with the arrest of my husband and my kids being exposed to HORRIBLE and very TRAUMATIZING things that they will never forget. I was sick, scared, and didnt know how to prove this. I knew it was him because he had been acting strange and tracking me all week trying to find where I was going to be and when I was leaving. So I felt like something was going on. I lied about what we were doing because I did not trust him. Well he was sitting outside the waterpark wating for us to pull up and he planted that in my car right after we walked in. Thank God the detective actually believed part of my story and did a little investigating by calling her back to tell her they had got us and was going to look over the cameras to make sure a deal wasnt done at the park and she started to freak. Well within the next hour she confessed to being the one who called in the report and that my ex husband was the one that put the drugs in my car. All this conviently happened the day before our scheduled court date for him owing back childsupport. So currently we are going through a HUGE custody battle and somehow the District Attorney did not press charges. I am at a total loss of words! Legally I dont know what to do anymore! I am paying for one of the best attorneys, but I am not working due to medical issues and my husband just got hurt on the job and is now not working and just had surgery. My kids are my world and I will fight and sale everything I own to pay an attorney to fight for me, but it is a major slap in the face that the District Attorney of our county does not believe he has enough evidence to press charges...... I mean... theres text messages, he called and asked the park if they had cameras, the girlfriend confessed to it all and its all recorded. She took him there, she made the call, she watched him plant it in my car, the drug dog picked up the sent of it in her car. I mean what else do you need! I am disappointed and I want to know what I can do from here! I want justice! It only took a phone call for 10 sheriffs to be surrounding us and doing everything they did in front of my kids, but my ex is out completely free and has no worries. Makes me sick! If anyone knows of any help, advice, options, or anything please please I beg you let me know!!! I go back to court Sept 16, 2011. Spread the word if you wish and get me any help possible! I am going to open up a go fund me account under missylsmith and I have a paypal account under missyloman@gmail.com. I hate asking for help, but I am fighting for my kids and for justice. I work for the department of Veteran Affairs and he has cost me my job. I have had to miss so much work my last day is now Sept. 30th. This is a job I have applied for and wanted for over 6 years and he took that away! He has taken everything away from me and my family and has ruined my kids mentally and emotionally! They go to counseling 2 days a week over all this. The medical bills are stacking up, the attorney fees are outrageous, and if I could get a $1 donated that is $1 more than I had! If you spread the word then maybe a few of your friends would donate a $1. Im not looking to get rich or make money! Not at all! Im looking to fight for my children and make sure this man NEVER does this to them AGAIN!!! I am worried about their health and I myself am going through health issues and currently go to counseling weekly to know how to answer the questions they might have. I want to make sure I am giving them the best chance they have at overcoming this horrible experience they had and the loss of their dad. Thank you so much for reading this! I know it was supposed to be a little about me, but that pretty much sums up me right now! :)