In Depth: Sex in America
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The goal of week one is to enjoy each other without expectation, and that means no sex! During the first week of The Doctors’ 30-Day Sex Challenge, you must refrain from all sexual contact. The only body parts that are allowed to touch for the first week are hands and feet.
“Separate in that bed and touch toes,” Dr. Walsh says. “During the day, hold hands. There will be no backrubs, no neck rubs, no genital contact.”
You also must commit to exercising three times a week. Exercise boosts endorphins and your self-confidence, which will make you and your partner feel sexy.
“[These steps] will help build up anticipation and intimacy,” OB/GYN Dr. Lisa Masterson says. “It helps you build up that craving.”
In week two, you have two assignments!
First, try an adrenaline-boosting activity together — take a roller-coaster ride or go rock climbing, bungee jumping or kayaking. Studies show that increasing adrenaline boosts your libido and the bond with your partner.
Next, have sex somewhere new. Week two is meant to get you and your spouse out of the rut you may have fallen into by adding some adventure into your marriage and sex life.
After a week of flirting and a week of adventure, it’s time to get down to business. Week three is about making a real effort to pleasure your partner. Satisfy your spouse at least three times during this week and try one new sexual position. Make sure to communicate your wants and needs, which fosters intimacy.
Week four’s assignment is simple: Have sex every day!
“No more excuses. It’s time to get it on,” plastic surgeon Dr. Drew Ordon says. “I’m talking a buffet. Anywhere and everywhere!”
Two couples — Dee and Charles, who have been married for 12 years, and newlyweds Louise and Andrew — accept the challenge for better sex in 30 days.
“What I see here is what I see most commonly with married couples, which is somebody has a high desire and somebody has a low desire,” doctor of psychology Wendy Walsh, Ph.D. says. “Here’s the thing that happens in long-term monogamy, and here’s how to keep it hot: Remember on your first date where you could touch fingertips and fireworks would blow off? We’ve got to get the arousal out of your genitals and into your fingers, into your toes and into your eyeballs, because sex should be a full-body experience.”
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Teens and Sex: The Shocking Reality
Have you already had “the talk” with your kids? It may be time for another. Dr. Wendy sits down with a group of sexually active teenagers for a revealing, candid and shocking conversation about sex.
“'Wow’ is about all I can say here,” Dr. Wendy says.
Dr. Wendy, Dr. Lisa and health and wellness expert Jillian Michaels give the teens a wake-up call to show them how promiscuity can affect their bodies and minds.
“This is part of the experimentation that goes on with being a teenager,” Dr. Lisa says. “What I think that you don’t realize are the consequences. What I’m seeing as an obstetrician/gynecologist is gonorrhea, Chlamydia, herpes, HIV, syphilis. A whole host of things that you could have or you could pass on to any number of partners.
“This affects your life, and it could affect you for life,” Dr. Lisa adds.
Emily, 15, has been sexually active for about two years, and while she says she uses protection, it isn’t always 100 percent effective. “I got unlucky,” she says. “Mine broke and now I’m 15 and pregnant.
“It’s hard now. It’s going to be hard later,” Emily tells her fellow teens. “You guys, I have been in the place where I was a straight-A student, I played sports every season since I was 3 years old. [That’s] gone. Going out with your friends? Gone. You think that you know someone, but when it comes down to it, you don’t know them.
“I thought that it would never happen to me, but it happened,” she continues. “If you guys think it won’t happen to you, it can.”