I am 33 years old, I have 3 boys 13, 10, 7. I have had a pretty healthy life for the most parts. I might have fell off the wagon thru my twenties. I have recently started walking every morning with the boys to school. Here's the deal I know I can look like a brickhouse I was that way b4 kids :) Love them and yes they remind me to be proud but when I can feel the awesome flat tummy Underneath a layer of fat tissue that won't go away and I remove whatever bra I am wearing and just sigh. That's what ruins my self esteem and has made it easier to keep the extra 20#. But my life has changed I am married now I feel more secure about my relationship and taking back the control I let go. I would love to have my tummy be flat I would really love my boobs to sit on their own. Its not about what others think its how I feel and how my body feels. being outta shape is the worst thing you could ever do to yourself I swear. It hurts to get back into shape for several different reasons. So I am on a mission to get better to try harder and to help my friends live healthier also. However if you ever want a patient to work on for the above reasons I would love to help you help me.