Gay male who is overweight not obese. I feel obese is a negative term and be eliminated from our vocabulary. Each person is different and I feels needs to treated as an individual not a group of people whose weight is harmful or not-narmful to there health. There are many people who have been heavy all their lives and are very healthy. Granted probably rare but they are out there and like my aunt can not help it because of thyroid. I am a sugar addicted and hate it and doing the best I can to eat more fruits and veggies but I also love chocolate.