Sex Drive

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Icon_missing_medium Cara42 3 posts

I am in my 60’s and when I am out with my female friends and the subject of sex comes up, they all talk about their ‘heat flashes’ and low sex drive and most of the other female menopausal problems. They have tried hormone treatments with little or no relief. When I was much younger, I read that a diet high in soy could prevent many of the menopausal problems later in life so I have enjoyed a diet high in soy for most of my life. I have never taken any hormones and I have never had a heat flash, PMS or any other menopausal problem. And quite frankly, I really enjoy sex. My male companion can attest to that. Do you think that the soy in my diet is what has made the difference or am I just a freak of nature like my friends tell me?

 
Icon_missing_medium rebelblonde 47 posts

Please do not ever think of yourself as a freak. You are quite normal. Many women are still in touch with their sexuality when they are older than you are. The problem is all you hear about women of menopausal age are how they have dried up and have no sex drive. Many of us have the same drive we did in our 20’s and the fact that we won’t become pregnant is a plus. I have nothing but empathy for those who have a difficult time but more time should be devoted to people like us. I am so tired of surprising men because I was never hormonal. I never had PMS, mood swings in pregnancy or became sexless in midlife.No wonder so many men shy away from women of a certain age & date younger women. If I were a man & listened to all the horrible media talk of women turning into irrational monsters, I would be afraid to date or hire one for a job. We need to hear more positives or women will see no benefit in living past 40. Let’s give them a reason to extend their lifespans.

 
100_0259_medium GREEDYBUCKS45 2 posts

i am glad to hear that you women in your 50 and 60 have a sex drive…. but however i am in my 40’s and was surgically pushed through menopause with a hysterectomy this is why i have no sex drive…….. i have been on every harmone pill it did not work…… am now on the testosterone pills they dont seem to be working either……. i have a very healthy diet and a very physical job so am getting plenty of excercise…… they just need something else for us……no fair men have it all when it comes to this sort of thing…….and as far as men straying because of this is bull they do it because they want to……and women dont because their man cant without drugs……..been with my man 31 years and we love each other more today then 31 years ago…….he is trying to help me with this not cheat on me…………

 
Sunset_medium travis12 1 post

I had a partieal hysterectomy i am 46 years old i really want to know how do you know if you are going through menopasue?  I dont have my periods any more.  I am going through mood changes my thyrod is nomal my husband tells our son that i am going through menapause my doctor says  i am to young please help me. My sex drive has been up and down.

 
Sandy-vegas_medium PokerPrincess 2 posts

Dear Doctors: I had a hysterectomy when I was 29 and my sex drive went stronger rather than weaker. My problem is that when I was 49 I started to have other health issues such as by-pass surgery, high cholesterol, Lupus, etc. and am now taking massive doses of various medications. I am single and have absolutely no interest in sex whether I’m with someone I really like or not. Could it be the medications that are stopping my sex drive and if so is there anything I can do about it.

Sandy, Toronto Canada

 
Dscf3730_medium stoyko56 1 post

I have had absolutely no sex drive ever since I got pregnant with my son who is almost 9mon old. I talked to my doctor about it and all she had to say was to lose some weight and it would come back. I know there has got to be more than just that to getting my sex drive back. I’m not sure what to do. I do give in to my fiance but I can never get myself into it. I just give in to make him happy. I used to really like sex and now I could really care less about it.

 
Icon_missing_medium Catrina 15 posts

It would be great if you would do a show informing women of the alternatives to hysterectomy and educate them about the functions of the female organs the way the HERS Foundation is doing with their video at: http://hersfoundation.com/anatomy/index.html

It seems women aren’t usually informed of the functions of their reproductive sex organs, or alternatives to hysterectomy that will leave their organs intact.

 
Icon_missing_medium rebelblonde 47 posts

I had a hysterectomy in my 40’s. I am now 61. I must have gone thru menopause sometime but I have never had any symptoms (except for no more periods after surgery.) The advice about losing weight sounds like some kind of cop out as I have know many overweight people with a healthy sex drive. I take no vitamins because I choose to get them from my food. I was a vegetarian for years but soy was not a big part of my diet. I went back to vegetarianism about a yr ago and consume more soy. However, though my diet may have changed throughout the years, my sex drive has remained high. Stress, sleep deprivation and being overwhelmed by personal & professional responsibilities can affect male or female sex drives. That father should be ashamed of telling his son mom is going thru menopause. Whether she is or not, it sounds like a derisive remark & does not instill respect for women. The lady who says this is just an excuse to cheat is right on the mark.

 
Frankie2_medium 29fanJoan 7 posts

I had a procedure done last year for heavy menstrual bleeding called Novasure. No more periods! Yay, but I’ve noticed my moods change more & now I would rather wash windows then have sex. My sex drive is gone. I am going on 41, is my symptoms from the procedure? Am I starting menopause? Anyone elce have NovaSure?

 
3758766_medium leah scott 14 posts

What is Novasure?? was it a surgical procedure or medications??

 
Frankie2_medium 29fanJoan 7 posts

NovaSure was a procedure done by inserting a device into the uterus that expanded a “wire-like” mesh, then using electricity to burn away the lining of the uterus. You can learn all about it if you ‘Google’ NovaSure.

 
Icon_missing_medium mustangsallie 8 posts

I had a hysterectomy at 36 and have one overy left, my sex drive was great until I hit 50 and I had menopause again and went on the climara patch for 7 years it was great again then I went off the patch because my doctor didnot tell me it would make me dry up and have hot flashes and the whole thing. He didn’t care it wasn’t his body. He retired and now here I am with all these problems and can not get back on the patch. Why do we have to beg for help and can’t get get any, we write to shows and they don’t ever get to us,the ones who have had a hysterectomy and problems.

 
Icon_missing_medium HotlittleKitty 1 post

hello doctors and everyone else i have had no need for efection or sex but i have had no cycle for two months, moodswings, nausea, dizzyness, lightheaded, craping sharp pains in my lower abdomin and some just in my righ side not to mention my sholder just starting to hurt. I have been going to the bathroom lots more then normal meaning pee and i cant stand nor sit long if i do then im cramping and sharp pains all over even worse then other times. I dont know what to do my doc did a blood test for pregnancy clamidea gonerea and lots more it came up neg so i need advice if u have any i think u should talk about cycles missing them what causes them and what symptoms u can have form not having them. Thank u in advance.
God Bless Maria/Kitty

 
Icon_missing_medium 81ststreet 11 posts

None of the doctors defined what libido should be expected and at what age it changes and disappears. The show could spend a whole day on libido alone.

It’s disappointing to hear a female doctor recommend foods to increase sex drive. I don’t believe there are clinical studies that testify to that and she implied they did by mentioning that salmon(omega oils)improves mood. Salmon might improve mood but that doesn’t translate to sex drive. I doubt the other foods noted do. OTC pills in the form of DHEA surely improves mood and may act similar to testosterone. I’ve learned that from a menopause center and used it for years. I was told not to use more than 25mg per day, or you can notice facial hair increase. It gave me a slight headache, but I can get a headache easily.

Having great pelvic health might contribute to a healthier female libido – more than the foods mentioned. That can happen by using Activia, Dan Activ, or some of the new yogurts. Acidophilus and thermophilus are great for female pelvic health – lactic acid is necessary according to my gynecologist. Most of the yogurts contain some version of lactic acid. Sauerkraut (un-pasteurized)is also fermented and works. Acidophilus is often used as a preventative for yeast infections. Most yogurt companies are billing their new yogurts, such as Activia or Dan Activ, as “intestinal” or “immune system” probiotics, even though they are good for female health too. Yoplait Plus has acidophilus in it – maybe others too. Be careful of using acidophilus pills, as there may be too much for one day – too much causes HUNGER!

Lastly, few of these shows ever discuss the BIOLOGY of our sex drive. While it often takes a new man or new play things (new experiences) to increase libido (of the mind), there is biology involved. It’s probably more than testosterone. Our female sexual bodies start to decline earlier in life, although many men also are unable to maintain an errection after age 40. The blue pill helped them. Still, this is all biology. We still have our ancestors biology, but we have greater expectations of our bodies than they can deliver. It’s because of 20th century technologies (better water and food supplies, antibiotics, better health technology…) we live longer, but our bodies are not biologically programmed to have a sexual libido probably past 35-40 (for women) as our average life expectancy was about 40 until the 1900’s. As long as men had a libido, women didn’t really need one years ago. If a woman depended on her livelihood via men, they had sex whether they wanted to or not, “duty”. Older women will remember that a wife could not say “no” to a husband, men having sex with a unwilling wife was not rape. Only in today’s time (last 30? years) are women allowed to have a libido….and so many women are wondering where it is after a certain age!! And also today, our media SCREAMS sex all the time and women are now EXPECTED to have a libido, when our biology is working on our ancestors’ life span.

 
Me_medium PATTI1979R 1 post

I HAVE HAD A BABY AT A YOUNG AGE AND LATER ON AFTER WHEN EVER I HAD SEX WITH MY MAN I WOULD BLEED. HE WAS REALLY BIG, AND IT HAPPEN EVERYTIME WE HAD SEX. I GOT MYSELF CHECKED OUT AND MY DOCTOR SAID IT COULD BE SCAR TISSUE. WITH THE GUY I’M WITH NOW I DON’T BLEED CAUSE HE’S NOT AS BIG, BUT I HAVE A VIBRATOR AND AGAIN WHEN IT’S IN ME I BLEED. THEIR IS A BUMP INSIDE THAT HAS GOTTEN BIGGER AND I’M REALLY CONCERN.

I ALSO WAS ON DEPO PROVERA FOR OVER 4 YRS BACK IN 2008 AND STOPPED TAKEN THE NEDDLE IN SEPTEMBER. IT KILLED MY SEX DRIVE, HOW CAN I GET IT BACK?

 
Icon_missing_medium doctorbax 14 posts

i heard dr. lisa say that exercise can increase sex drive. especially exercises done to strengthen the muscles in the pelvic region.

 
3758766_medium leah scott 14 posts

looked it up on google that same hour, yeppers side effects of corse.

 
184500214_bfbc6e1785_m_medium mrgsnmtblq 1 post

There are many other prescription pills available to improve sexual health. You can try other one. One of them is Levitra. It’s a much better drug to increase sexual stamina. It should be used in accordance with instructions of a physician. 

 
M_0bbc10d8465bcfa0e7301a00f15d79c2_medium SamanthaEagl... 2 posts

IM 20 AND I HAVE A LOW SEX DRIVE,MAYBE ITS CAUSE I DONT HAVE THE BIG O, SO I DONT WANT SEX..





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