Sounds like you're stressing to me.  If I can speak frank from one mother to another: Going back and forth is only confusing the kids.  Stop that.  You can give kids what you didn't have without doing that.  Is this a bad day or do you always do this?  Be firm, set standards, a schedule, rules menus etc.....be consistant.  Nothing wrong with brownies in moderation, nothing wrong with "giving in" in moderation.  Believe me in a long run your kids will grow to appreciate structure.  You haven't lost it, most of us go through this. Try not to worry about what you didn't have and maintain structure, and work with your husband, you'll be fine.

Mommy, you need to relax. Just the fact that ypu are so concerned I am sure you will be a great mom.  Why are you second guessing yourself? Kids can eat the brownies and the strawberries.  There should just be more of the fruit and vegies than the treats. Your  anxiety is going to cause the kids to feel anxious. I am a mother of a boy and girl. Both of who are grown adults. All mom make mistakes,we are human.  A little piece of birthday cake is ok. Doing the best for yiour kids is giving them a rounded diet with lots of furits and veggies and treats on special occasions (like a birthday) . The best advice I can give you is to relax and ENJOY you children. They grow up so fast. Have fun!

Elizabeth, sounds like your kids have it under control. No worry's we all vent here, but we laugh alot too. Hope you have a better day tomorrow.  Diana

Elizabeth, I an glad today was a better day.  It sounds like the kids have a great diet . I was wondering if you were teased in school about your weight and worried about your kids going through the same thing? My best to you and I hope you have a lot of good day in between the bad ones.

Patricia

i agree with you!!! i have the same problem, after 3 kids and going on 4, i still try to make their lives better than mine ever was. they listen to daddy but not mommy, my thoughts, decisions and ideas and worries never cross their minds, i think you are doing good. its not easy being a parent and being a mom is the hardest job of all ! just need to relax, i know with kids it can be hard, cause i have been with my kids 24/7 since my first daughter and that was 5 years ago so 5 years without going out, being alone for a few minutes have driven me to confusion, stress and crazyness sometimes i just wanna pack up and leave, i love my kids but boy can they drive me crazy! i think you are doing good and although it can confuse the kids with the going back and forth, just think they cant always make up their minds, and confusion is okay i guess once in a while, we are only human, just be sure to get some relax time to yourself, even if it means taking a nap when they take theirs or take time to yourself when they are eating.