Life is too short to get blindsided by something as preventable as a sexually transmitted disease. Making sure you’ve been tested is vitally important for your health and your partner’s health. Remember, there’s no such thing as safe sex, because any sexual contact with another person carries certain risk, but there is such a thing as safer sex. Safer sex is the ultimate turn-on and the best way to build intimacy and trust in a relationship.
What is “safer sex"?
It means being in a trusted, monogamous and committed relationship with someone whom you know does not have HIV or an alternate STD (you two have tested together on two separate occasions at least three months apart), and you are using condoms consistently and correctly in all sexual settings. Practicing safer sex can actually be fun and sexy. What is sexier than knowing that no matter how wild things get, you’re protected? All it takes is a little planning and an active imagination.
Let’s talk about sex, baby.
When you have a partner whom you trust, knows what you like, what you fantasize about, and things you’d like to try — all bets are off in the fun department. Your partner just might surprise you with some fantasies of his or her own.
Condoms don’t have to be wet blankets.
Condoms come in a variety of sizes, so if he complains about the fit, tell him to try another size. If either of you have a latex allergy, or itch after you use regular latex condoms, there’s a polyurethane option that will protect you without the irritation, so no excuses. Putting on a condom doesn’t have to be a drag. Use your hand to manually massage him while you put it on, or get creative and apply the condom with your mouth. Either way, check it out periodically to make sure the condom is still on. When used consistently and correctly, condoms are very effective in decreasing the transmission of HIV, so keep some in your purse!
They’re for women, too.
The best thing about the female condom is that you can actually show up to dinner with the condom in place and ready for action! The female condom actually serves as a polyurethane protective lining of the vagina and is available at most major drug stores. The female condom comes lubricated, so do not use it with a regular latex condom. The female condom heats up to your body temperature and serves as a warm and inviting reservoir for your partner’s penis. Visit DrRachael.com for more information on the proper use of a female condom.
What is “outercourse"?
First off, unprotected anal and vaginal sex are the riskiest forms of sexual intercourse. But, both you and your partner can orgasm without vaginal or anal penetration. You would be surprised what you can accomplish through touching, kissing and handling. Become an outercourse expert! Pick up a copy of Down Right Feel Right - Outercourse For Her & For Him.
Don’t fear the truth.
One of the most important forms of safer sex is knowing exactly who you are dealing with sexually. The two of you should test for HIV and other STDs together, commit to each other, practice mutual monogamy, and decrease your risks of becoming HIV positive.