You aren't fat in fact you are very pretty and i say your husband doesn't know what he is letting go of, we all gain weight over the years I bet he isn't the same weight he was when you married. It's such a double standard and it sucks, I think it's time for us women to to say the heck with it, just like they burned their bra's in the 60's I think we should burn our gym cards to show that we aren't going to take it any longer. I don't disagree with people taking care of themselves and keeping healthy but we were not meant to be stick thin that's why our young girls have such bad body issues because of attidudes like your husbands. Be good to yourself and your children and when he finds that the grass isn't greener on the other side then it will be he who misses out.

                                                                       Best Wishes,Carrie

Could it be something else going on (ie..another woman finds him attractive) and he is using that as an excuse to get out of the relationship - So it looks like it's your fault not him??  After 3 kids only gaining 30 is good.  Your not fat!

Carrie

I am with you on that"Burn the gym cards",thats FUNNY.

OMG. You have to like not be serious. NO, you're not too fat, you're hardly fat at all. Geeze. If he would end something after that long, I don't think it would be because of weight. I think honestly he might be seeing some one else. It's hard to believe that some one would just drop everything because of weight. Goodluck with it, sorry to hear that. Maybe it's just a guy thing.

I say dump him! He should love you for who you are. you just need to watch your weight for yourself and for health reasons. He is probably slinking around. The main thing is if you are happy at this weight. if so, dont worry if not do something about it.

Billie Lea, first off, you look great.  "Fat" is an ingredient in our foods. It is something listed on food labels and what comes out of bacon when you cook it. It's sad that it is ever used to describe people. We all come with different heights, weights, shapes and colors on the outside and different thoughts, hopes, dreams and desires on the inside. Life's experience's bring changes to both and those who truly love us love us don't suddenly stop because of those changes. You deserve love and respect from people in your life, seems to me he doesn't deserve you. Take care of you. Deb  

Sounds to me like it's just an excuse. I think there is something else going on with him. If you've been this way for 2 yrs. then it's not you're weight. I hate to bring this up but is he being unfaithful? Looking at you're pictures, you look like a healthy woman. Being stick thin is not the norm anymore. Men like women with a little meat on their bones. Before I had kids at age 22 I was barely 119 lbs. Now, 5 yrs and 2 kids later, I weigh 138lbs and couldn't be happier. I'm also 5'4" and I have times where I feel chubby, but I'm happy. That's much more important than what everyone sees on the outside. There was a previous post that says fat is just an ingredient in our foods and she is ABSOLUTELY RIGHT!

You are not fat, But you are PHAT. whats up with thatman of yours. You are a very sexy woman. I believe like others that he could be using this as an escuse for his on selfish reason. My fiance of 21 years as messed around on me so many times. He would start out being all sweet, then he would slowly not have anything to do with me then he would start talking to me the same way. I am stupid because i am still here. You look in that mirror and say to yourself i am beautiful and don't put up with that bullcrap are you will be in this same place i am heavier and 21 years later.

I DONT THINK YOUR FAT AT ALL.AND IF HE FEELS THAT WAY.IT MAKES ME WONDER IF HE EVEN CARED.WHAT DID HE EXPECT YOU TO DO HAVING KIDS.LOOSE WEIGHT,I GAINED WHEN I HAD MY KIDS.I JUST STARTED EATTING PORTION SIZES THAT WORKED FOR ME AND SOME EXCERICE,GOOD LUCK.TELL HIM TO HAVE KIDS AND HE WILL SEE THAT HE GAINED WEIGHT TOO.AND NO YOUR NOT FAT AT ALL

                                               CUDDLES05