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just an update

I just thought I'd let everyone know how things are going. So I've gotten over the feeling of the post partum depression. I tried to make a step forward and I met a guy. I am now facing the extreme anxiety of seeing if he's still going to want to talk to me after the fact I just told him I have herpes. He said he had to think about it. I'm really upset because I have a bad feeling that he isn't going to want anything to do with me because of the fact I have this. When I told him he just said that it was a shocker and I told him that atleast he knows for a fact that I'm a very honest person and that I'll tell the truth regardless of whether it'll hurt me or not. He agreed with that atleast. I'm freaking out though. Usually my bad feelings are right so.. I just hope my honesty doesn't bite me in the butt.

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Sinduhrella
Being honest with him was the best thing, and for the future, you should always do the same.  It's a hard pill to swallow to hear someone pop out with something like that.  How long did you know him?  How many dates did you go out on.  I wouldn't suggest popping out with something like that on the first or second date.  Get to know him, let him get to know you and your personality.  Sex shouldn't be a factor in the first part of any relationship, so why go there if you won't even be intimate with this person?  Getting to know about someone and whether or not you'd want to be with that person long term is what you should focus on.  My Mother said this to me when I was younger... Never have sex with someone unless you are comfortable knowing you could be tied to them the rest of your life.  With pregnancy, a condom or birth control is never 100%.  Getting to the point of wanting to be sexual with someone is always a ways down the road.  Let yourself have a relationship with someone and find out if they are mature enough to handle something like that.  THEN tell them if you think they are ready and you want to progress to the next level.  If not, then you can let that person go without all those feelings of worry and anxiety.
 
Take care,
~Lisa
Sinduhrella

Oh I forgot to say...  lies are what comes back to bite you in the butt ;) 

roseireland

Hey ya Bethany good job on been open and honest with this guy i applaude you x x  x.there are many out there who would be so honest and if he is with you for you "alone" there shouldnt be a problem good luck keep us posted

bethanyleigh

ok so yall are going to think i'm crazy. yesterday was our first date. but the way i see it is why wait to tell him until i get really attached and have him freak out and run for the hills. i told him this early that way i wouldn't get extremely invested just to get hurt but just so yall know i was very surprised to hear that he wants to look past it and plans on continuing getting to know me with the hopes of a relationship in the future. so luckily it worked out. i just had a little rough night before finding it out.

princess anne

that kind of guy should not be entertain. your just being honest not only to yourself but the others. its their prerogative if they still want to be with you or not. and if you really want to have someone who will accept for who you are. before i watch an episode that have the same condition as you. and there is this website that something like a dating site who's onliner is mostly have herpes. sorry but i dont remember the site, but try to search maybe you can find your right guy there. :P

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