Treat a Tantrum?

The terrible twos can be terribly frustrating , but is it ever OK to silence tantrums with treats ?

“Every mother and father has done that at some point,” doctor of psychology Wendy Walsh, Ph.D. says. “It usually happens when we’re publicly shamed and people are looking at us.

“The truth is that children need to learn to self-regulate,” Dr. Wendy continues. “Not babies, but children, [and] that starts around 2. The way they self-regulate is by not getting your attention. You don’t punish them, nor do you reward them. You ignore it. You know what you do? You fold laundry, you load the dishwasher, you walk in the other room. Once they see that they’re not getting the big show out of mom that they usually get, [they will relent].”

Pediatrician Dr. Jim Sears shares his dos and don’ts for taming tantrums .

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