Just the facts.

05/16/06  diagnosed with petit-mal epilepsy and now off work

06/06 diagnosed with fibromyalgia

07/04/06 my husband, Ric, died in his chair in the living room during the early morning hours.  Four days

before he would've had his 52nd birthday on 07/08/06 and a week short of our 32nd anniversary on 07/11/06.

03/06 stopped umpiring due to knee injury

Subsequently diagnosed with chronic depression and anxiety.

11/06   Social Security considers me disabled

I don't remember 7/06 through  03/08

I've gained 50 pounds partly due to medication and partly due to physical challenge (pain)

08/08 total knee replacement.  No more umpiring, no activity involving pressure on the ball of my right foot

and consequently my right knee.  My orthopedist says swimming (like I'm going to put THIS BOD in a swim-

suit? NOT)  and bike riding (I haven't been on a bike since I was 10 years old...they have GEARS!...I bought

one and can't figure out how to use the blooming thing) are the activities I can safely participate in without

compromising my knee replacement.

I'm ready to learn to be an adult by myself and be self employed part time.  Can you suggest weight loss and

getting a "style" and...BIG ONE...how do I date again?  I met Ric at 17 and that was that.  What do I do?