I am a 50 year old female that has been over weight since I had children.  My first husband divorced me because I got "fat".  I was divorced at 30 and have had times of depression off and on most of my adult life.  When I was 40 I met this wonderful man (who is 6 years younger) and we married two years later.  He treats me like a queen and spoils me constantly.  I have been at my heaviest 265 pounds and I now weigh 185.  When I was 19 I spent 6 months on crutches due to a knee accident and then surgery, I then got pregnant and swelled up and my upper arms have been disgusting ever since however they are now even worse with the weight loss.  I have been excercising and I can see where my muscle is and where the fat and skin hang down.  This has caused me extreme self esteem problems.  I know I am still losing weight and I am looking so much better in my clothes, but my arms are an embarassement to me.  My husband loves me no matter what but I would love to feel like the beautiful person he thinks I am.  He was working hard at seeing if I could get my upper arms "fixed" however, in 2006 we had our granddaugher (she is now 5) come live with us and we have custody of her.  So as you can understand we have put off my arms.  My husband is trying but we also have a son who is a senior in high school and I have told him to not worry about my arms.  I am just wondering if there is more than one way to fix my problem.  I have been working so hard the last two years but I still don't feel attractive in my clothes.  It is like I have arms from two different people when you look at the upper arm and then the lower arm just fine.  I just want to wear big things to cover my upper arms.  It really is hard to find longer sleeves and still be cool when you live in Corpus Christi, Texas where it is warm most of the year.

I have always liked clothes that are tailored but very stylish (my dad owned a clothing store) but for years now I just cover my body.  I want to look good again, I'm not asking for young just somewhat pretty.

I have always been a giver to everyone I know, family and friends.  I have always been there for everyone else.  I and I have always given up things for everyone else.  I really want to be able to do something for myself but I know I won't if it takes money or things or time away from my children and grandchildren.  I love doing for others because I am a caring and giving person.  My husband says I should start doing for myself what I do for everyone else and loving myself (he knows my past with my first husband and my past behavior with myself) he says it is my turn to feel special since I always make everyone else feel special.  See I really have a good husband...I am so blessed.

So if you could give me some advice or help with my arm problem.  It would be very appreciated to get some answers (if there are any) with this problem and I know there are other people out there that also have this problem.

Thank you in advance and look forward to hearing from you.

Joni Sellers