You got that right Oddone.  I still will start to wonder if I was overreacting, but I know that I wasn't.  Actually I think it might have been the biggest favour I could have ever done for him, because he now has the courage to get better.

Thank you all for your kind and great words.  My goal is that I will too be able to help someone.  It is a really rough decision and I also found myself defending him at times and I sure am glad that I took Theatre Arts in High School because I became an awful good actor.  I am a better woman and he will be a better man for this.  Thanks again and I look forward to being able to talk to everyone and see what is new and exciting every day. 

bravo for you  that took alot of courage to take the right step torwards a better life this site is a great place for any kind of support

hugs

lisa

AJ,

     Wow, good for you!  What you did took a lot of strength, and I'm glad you are smiling again!  Welcome to the site, your new blog is very powerful and I think it will help others in a similiar situation as you were to see there is another way and that they can take control of their lives and make it better!  Thank you for sharing your courage.

Michele

Well good for you for putting yourself and kids first.You deserve a good life.I was married to an alcoholic and had 2 small children he was also abusive(mostly mental)He could be a good man when he wasn't drinking,but that was very rare.One day took my kids and left.Have a great man now we have been married 17yrs and together for 19.Also welcome to the site and for sharing your story.I am sure when Winddancer gets back on and reads your blog,she will be happy to hear what you wrote.I hope you husband gets the help and stays with it.The father of my kids died at the age of 48 from drinking.

Take care.

So glad to hear you took yourself and your son out of a bad situation. Emotional abuse is the worst type of abuse (I think) because it always makes you wonder if you are over reacting to an innocent comment. My daughter is in an abusive marriage and suffers regular panic attacks. When I asked her if she understood he was abusing her, she defended him. I know that is a normal response but I hope she finds your courage soon.

You're one strong lady. Hang in there.

Dear  AJ, you came to the right place at the right time.  Winddancer, Diana, is one of our more prolific writers.  She has been through much in her young life.  You are both right about not staying through abise.  My sister put up with it and her son wound up in jail.  i don't know that that was the reason, but I am sure it added to the heat.  My mother (now deceased, so I am not breaking her anonimity) was an alcoholic.  She quit drinking when I was 10, but she retained her "alcoholic personality".  You have done the best thing for yourself and especially for your son.  You love both your men enough to get out before it got worse and I applaud you.  You should read everything Diana has written.  We keep urging her to write a book and I bellieve she is going to.  I wish you much luck and happiness.  there are many great people on here and you will make friends quickly. Bobbie