This post caught my eye, I raised 4 children. 3 sons, one ADHD, one with a LD and ADHD and one who was well kinda crazy fun. I have a daughter who is grown and looking at schools now, took 2 years off to coach gymnastics.

Boys at this age must make the decision about thier friends. I always have talked to my kids on their terms. Sometimes they were very open, other times the door was closed to me. One thing I found is find the best time to really have a heart to heart with your son. About life, about his goals, what he loves, maybe his side of the friends. I had a similar issue one friend of my son's out of the blue started rumors after HS graduation and after 4 years of friendship, all was off and 5 years later it still is a broken friendship. It was due to rumors, and he wanted my son's g/f. She chose my son, married and have a 22 month old. Pick a good time, I had one son that was a 1 am talker, I would stay up watching tv and he would stroll in and we could chat up a storm alone in the livingroom. My oldest, talked to me in the car, with his ADHD we had to wait until very late in life to really talk. He was a challenge. But, he teaches others about ADHD in our family and why meds worked for him. How they helped him to be able to concentrate and learn. Also have friends, because he wasn't scatterbrained. My other son and I have a very special bond. He can read me like a book. I can do the same. Talking came easy. Find that special thing, bowling, rock climbing, what ever it is...and have a heart to heart. He might be 18 but doesn't know what to do and needs some help or advice.

Good luck, I know you will find a way through. Mary Kay

Beryld It is not just hard being a teenager it is also diffucult to be a parent. I have learned unless they ask for your advice don't give it when it has to do with girlfriends or friends. When you get in the middel you always end up the bad guy. It is hard at 18 to control any thing they do. If he is living at home he should follow house rules. As far as his friends don't worry they will get back together or he has a long time to make new life time friends. And as you know when people are young they know all about love and beleive it is for ever so at this point all you can do is support him and make him follow your rules in the home.

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Sheilah