I hope you read this and take more time before you make such a big decision.

You can get pregnant anytime, period or not. No protection is 100% against pregnancy or disease but some come close above 90%. You can still get and transmitt a sexual disease through oral sex if either of you have done that. You can be a carrier of many diseases and transmitt without showing any symptoms.

My first time was with my husband but we had sex once before we got married and it changed our whole relationship. We no longer trusted each other like we had and it took a lot of work and committment to mend that before we got married.

It was somewhat painful and I did bleed after my first time and later after my first few times. You definitely need compassion and patience with your partner.

Ultimately, it is your decision and a decision you should not rush or feel pressure about.

It is also a decision that could change your life forever. If you plan to marry why not wait? If your not sure here is what could happen. If you engage in premarital sex you will always run the risk of distrust with future partners because they often compare their sexual experiences with others they have had. If you wait to have sex with your husband especially one who is also a virgin you both will have nothing to compare to and therefore to you have the best sex there is. It is part of building a trusting relationship and if you are both willing to wait and show your commitment to each other your bond will be stronger and last a lifetime. If he is not willing to wait then he probably is not the one to share this special moment with because what will it accomplish to give it up now? 

Hi There !

Having sex for the first time can be scary and thrilling all at the same time.

A few suggestions, you both need to get tested for STDs. Yes, I understand that you are both virgins, but that does not at all mean that either one of you can not have a STD. STDs are not only passed from one person to another through sex.

You need to make sure to buy a box of condoms the day you both decide to have sex. Condoms that you get from your friend's wallet or stash, are a big no. Condoms expire and can become less effictive due to the heat of the sun and wallet.

You might also need lubrication, like K-Y.

There will be slight pain, but not as much as you would expect.

I hope this has helped and good luck !

Yes, like j2001 said, you can become pregnant at any time.

The condom can break, your boyfriend may not pull out the condom properly and cause his sperm to spill inside you.

You can have sex any way and in any place and still become pregnant.

There is not a lot of blood, but there will be some, so you might to have a towel with you.

Thanks so much, i aprreciate it alot.

Hi there...I will not repeat what I have just read about contraceptives...it does bear repeating that condoms are the ONLY way to prevent STD's.  This is a HUGE life changing step...would you mind telling me a little about yourself???  How long have you been with this guy and do you have definite plans to marry??? Do you go to church???  Are you two very involved in school activities....how old are you guys?

OMG!  I'm so worried for my kids!  I was a late bloomer, didn't have sex young like most.  I had decided to wait until I was definately in love and until I was definately sure I was ready. I didn't wait until I was in the back seat of a car and too confused and too hormonal to make an intelligent decision.  But due to my mother being very open and honest, I knew a lot of stuff.  I was the person in high school that everyone came to to ask sex questions.  Wierd, considering I was a virgin, but I knew stuff, so....

YOU CAN GET PREGNANT ANY TIME, UNLESS YOU ARE ALREADY PREGNANT!  There are NO safe times.

You should use a condom.  Like the other person said, probably with KY Jelly.  Never use vasoline because it eats holes through the condom.

You can bleed a little or a lot.  I bled a lot.

It can barely hurt or hurt a lot.  It hurt me a LOT.

Most people eventually have sex and manage to live through it, but use your head, not your emotions or hormones.  Use your common sense.  When its right. When you are old enough. When you know  you are ready, (and your boyfriend isn't there to make that decision for you). When you are in love.  And when you are protected!

Honey, i hope that you're ready for this. First you should both do a test of STDs so you will be sure that you won't get sick before worrying of being pragnant. Second, You should do any contraceptive described from your Gyn doctor. and Latter, don't precipate ti loose your verginity, take things slowly so you won't get hurt. I am muslim and in our religion it's forbiden to have sex before getting married, i can't tell you don't do it, but be careful, the girl's body is sooo precious you should be sure of giving it to somebody that worth.

Good luck in your love and life