Hi Danielle, you have your hands busy. I have a grown daughter who is 26 years old that I believe has autism. (asbergers which is a mild form of autism) but she was never diagnosed. She ws diagnosed with ADHD when she was about 3. The two diagnoses have simular symptoms. Erica never liked being touched, she would always play opposite of where other children would played. She didn't like looking people in the eye. Her speech was delayed. Doesn't like being hugged. Didn't make friends. I have to say now she is doing great she is in college, she has gotten her certificate in child development and is working on an AA. It is hard for her she has to take one or two hard class at a time. She is working at the toddler center at the college she goes to. She loves little kids. The little ones that have problems seem to be drawn to her. She has an ability to understand them and help them. She is finally making friends, they are younger than she is. She went on her first camping trip with friends this last summer, she was the oldest. She has been driving since she was 21. I don't believe kids should get thier driving lisence just because they turn 16 alot of kids are too immature, that is how I felt about Erica.

Any way Danielle your daughter is pretty, I notied that she didn't smile in the picture you took. Do you have a hard time getting her to smile when she has her picture taken proffessionally. Erica never like having her picture taken when she was little, we would always have to tease a smile out of her. Most of her pictures in elementary school she didn't smile of course they don't have the time to coax a smile from every child that won't smile.

Love to hear from you,

Debbie

Hey ya just came across your page and see from it your a styrong woman may god bless ya and the best is yet to come wanna chat anytime  just gossip or whatever give a shout  x x x

HI DANIELLE,

Thank you for your comments on my profile, and ty for adding me as a friend.

Im sorry you too have to deal with this pain.

Wow 3 kids and another on the way, you are very very blessed. Congratulations, I wish you the best.

I'm sure I'll be taking with you again soon.

Take care of you!

Your friend,

Bunny

Daniel,

I totally understand mother's guilt. I do it big time! It doesn't matter how big or small our children's problems are we tend to blame ourselves. I battle that demon every day. Our children definitely pick up our thoughts and emotions psychically. My children are old enough to tell me they are hurt when I blame myself.  I hope you can get to a point where you can let it go. It causes needless suffering and perpetuates the initial bad memory. Actually keeping you stuck in the past which takes away from your ability to be free in the moment. Yes, unfortunately the Drs used that term, they were not technically wrong in using it but it imbedded a cruel image in your mind. I think saying that to you enabled them to blame your body, your cord and not their inability to detect it prior to birth. Don't take that on, they gave that to you, give it back to them.  Perhaps you would be willing to rewrite the script in order to heal. It does not change what happened but it might help you put it in a different prospective. Ask "What is the good purpose of this lesson?" Seek a possitive answer. Think... "My daughter was such an accrobat in my womb that the silly girl got herself into a pickle, but thanks to her spirit, she is here now and we love her so." Taking the focus off the pain and on the gift. I know I am not in your position so it is easy for me to say all this. But I can feel your heart breaking about this issue and can't let a sister be alone in her sadness. I also have some professional experience in the mind/body/spirit dept as a Healing Touch practitioner so I am taking the liberty to share :)  Take good care...peace, Claudia 

Hi Danielle,

I am so sorry to hear you had such a tragic accident. Since you have already had two children since your accident and you had them vaginally there is no reason you should not be able to have a midwife attend your birth. As far as having an epidural there are lots of things you can do naturally that will help with your pain. Also, when you have an epidural it is very hard to push a baby out so that is why you were instructed to do the "purple" pushing. This type of pushing can cause the baby not to get enough oxygen which could have contribued to the problems your child has now. For the low iron you can take yellow dock root, nettles, and eat lots of green leafy vegetables. If you would like to take a good iron supplement, the best one is a kelated iron. It is very absorbable and will not constipate you. You want to take it with vitamin C. We have had great luck with this iron. You should see a rise in your hemoglobin level about a point every week. If you have any other questions please ask me.

Blessings,

Lisa

Sounds like you are a very busy gal! I will keep you in my thoughts for your upcoming birth. Your children are beautiful. It has been a long while since I have had a little one. I am so ecstatic! Keep me posted!

Daniel 75. I have to agree with the homebirthers on this site. My daughter's cord was wrapped around her neck, she was posterior with alot of fluid and needed to be slightly intibated. All done by my side in my bed. This does not compare to the severety your situation but I think the more you hear from other mothers the more comforted you might become.  I had two homebirths after that without complication. Just ask any mother of multiple births, They are all different. Regarding your little troupers menage of physical issues, no one has yet suggested vaccinations being the culprit. There are indications that the live polio virus vaccine is directly linked to autism and the MMR is linked to juvenille diabitis. I thought lack of oxygen leeds to cerebral palesy. Some believe babies choose to come into this world exactly as they are under the presenting circumstances. I wish you may find another way to phrase what happened. If only you could stop referring to the cord accident in terms of strangulation. It adds guilt and shame to something that was not in your control at the time. But now you know and now you can be stronger and wiser and get yourself an education as to how to optimize your next birthing scenario. This baby was born to give you inner strenth and wisdom and emancipation.  Listen to these women. go to all the websites that have been offered. Shoot! I am inspired by them and my youngest is 20!

I actually just got back from a midwife mission trip and there was a midwife from Canada on the trip. She only delivers baby's at home. If you don't mind may I ask what medical problems you have from a car accident that makes you high risk? Since you have already had three children vaginally that is a very good indicator that you will not have any problems with the next baby.

Take Care,

Lisa

What an inspiration you are! Thank you for inviting me to join your friends! My kids are almost 7 (boy), almost 5 (girl) and 2 1/2 (boy). My husband and I are wanting one more, but no luck so far!

What kind of photography are you into? I love taking portraits, either posed or candid. I have my first wedding booked next spring.

Hi,

I read your comment on the show about homebirth. It is very possible that if your daughter had been born at home she would be ok today. Dr. Masterson gave a lot of false information and in some parts of the show she downright lied. You and your baby are better off with a midwife. Studies have proven time and time again that homebirth with a midwife is safer and healthier for the mother and the baby. If you have any questions please ask me.

Lisa

Senior Midwife Student, Former NICU Respiratory Therapist